Zen Dialogues

Reflections from Japan's Buddhist Traditions

Should I postpone my marriage?

Thank you for always being there. She is a woman who has been in a relationship and her boyfriend, who has been in a relationship for 5 years, told me to wait 3 years before getting married. After that, it was shortened one year later, and I was scheduled to enroll in December this year, and I...

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I'm in trouble because my husband is a spoiled boy

There's nothing I can do about my husband getting bogged down at work every morning. I've always been bad at mornings, but “I don't want to go to work,” “I don't want to think about work,” “I woke up once when I slept today and wanted to go to the bathroom,” and “I still want to sleep.” I'm in a...

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Break up or not break up

I have a boyfriend that I've been dating for a year and a half. I'm in my late 30s and he's 8 years older. He is very kind, and he dotes on me and takes great care of me even with this. However, I feel uneasy about my future with him, and I'm uneasy about my future with him until I have an...

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Is this an empty sickness?

Before I knew it, I was brushing my teeth in the middle of the day. I'm not aware of it. I'm in a daze and can't get into zazen. My eyes are floating, and my feet are wobbly. What should I do if I just knead it? I now know that living with the senses is the right answer. I understand that...

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On the extremes of living

I often hear that thinking about dying is an extreme idea, but what is the basis for saying that thinking about living isn't extreme?

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I have no hope for the future and I have shortness of breath

Nice to meet you. Thank you for taking the time to look through it. Not long ago, I had no hope for the future, and I always felt shortness of breath, so I asked you if you could objectively think about how to grasp my situation and live my life. I became a member of society this spring, and...

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A silly playful game called everyday conversation

I'm really disgusted by the fact that conversations with people are so meaningless and so stupid. I'm sick of this series of farce: pretending to be interested in myself, pretending to understand, and pretending to sympathize with me. The moment you realize that humans are creatures that don't...

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Trauma and how to switch feelings

There are worries and traumas that are not something you can easily talk to people about. The traumatic event was in May last year, and the related events were from February to August last year, but even now I remember it at an accidental moment, and I am filled with regret, anger against...

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What is mourning or defamation...

Please tell me more about mourning and bereavement. My grandmother passed away recently. I'm planning to get married next year, but I'm thinking about whether it's okay to say hello and make a report. My opponent is a deputy chief priest and local public servant of the Otani school of...

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The torch

It's so warm, it's hard to get out. It's staying. I want to change, but I can't. Maybe they're really afraid of changing. It's staying. What have I been doing for a month?

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Life without graves

Hello. I'm worried about graves. My husband, who is an only child, doesn't seem to want to have a grave in the future. I've never heard of a grave at my husband's parents' house either. We've never visited graves together. There are also few relatives. In this day and age, it doesn't...

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Is love and marriage tough for young bald people?

I'm 25 years old. Recently, I met someone at work that I would like to be in a relationship with. I'll be with that person on a business trip 10 days from now. We just talk normally in the workplace. So when I muttered that I wanted to go to the ○○ zoo, the person said that they wanted to go to...

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Grandfather's illness

I've been living with my grandfather for 25 years since I was born. He was the grandfather of good health, but he discovered a heart disease the other day. When I went to visit him, multiple infusions were hanging, my ureters got in, and although I understood about myself, I couldn't speak...

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I can't forgive my uncle and aunt in law

I would like to consult with you for the first time. My uncle is my father's younger brother, and my aunt in law is my uncle's common law wife, and since there is no documentary kinship relationship, I write “aunt in law.” My father, who was 58 years old, passed away soon after the...

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Are humans alone after all?

Are humans alone after all? I can't believe people these days. This is because even if you believe in yourself, others won't give back the same amount. Even if you take care not to say bad things about others, others will say bad things. I have an obsession with people even if I want to...

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Dream of becoming a nun

My dream is to become a nun. Often, “What are your dreams for the future?” I am asked, It takes a lot of courage to be a nun. The reason is that people say “it's changed” or “strange,” and people laugh at it. Dream that I am a nun I've never felt ashamed to have one. However, when I'm asked...

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About my future self

Your hard work is definitely not in vain, right? The number of things I want to do has increased, and it's hard to know where to start. Don't be impatient, but you want to get results quickly, so it makes you feel presumptuous. Please give me some advice.

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Things to do to take a fresh look at yourself

I'm going to take a fresh look at myself during the year-end and New Year holidays (mainly on the work side). This is because I've been at my current company for a long time and I don't have skills that can be used anywhere else, but since my current company has 70 points out of 100 comfortable...

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I lost my best friend and I can't get back on my feet

This is a continuation of the previous question and answer It's been about 3 weeks since my best friend passed away You say they're your only friend and have been in a relationship for 35 years I feel like there's a hole in my heart and the days are hard to live I was really happy for the 3...

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My heart is weak

Is there a way to have a heart where you can act without worrying about something that bothers you? Also, I can't get my regrets or bad things out of my head. What kind of way of thinking should we live our lives easily?

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