Zen Dialogues

Reflections from Japan's Buddhist Traditions

A mass of complexes

I have a very introverted personality, and I'm not good at socializing. The interpersonal complex is strong. In particular, my romantic experience is almost equal to zero, and when I see couples who are in love as a matter of course or who seem happy in the city, they say, “Why are they all...

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Names in red

It is said that it's not good to write people's names in red, but is that true? I go to pen letters in order to write the letters clearly, but when I was looking at the sample characters my teacher wrote, the sentences were black, but only my name was written in red. I don't think I wrote...

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The right effort

Like the last verse of Kenji Miyazawa's poem “Amenimo Makezu” “Sauiumono Niwatashi Hanaritai” Can you tell me what the monks are currently most careful about in their daily lives in order to help their parents, live in harmony with others, help people in need, but value their own lives, and...

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My wife has a tough personality

Excuse me for my first question. My wife's words and actions are tough, and I'm mentally driven away. Each point is not heavy, but there was a lot of criticism and criticism (housework style, personality, etc.) at home, even when it was difficult at work or when it was difficult and job...

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Quail's End

Yesterday, on the internet news, I saw an article about quails that are born as long as they lay eggs and are slaughtered when they look like they are torn apart at the end. Productivity is paramount, and they are confined to an extremely narrow cage. They jump up in the cage, so their feathers...

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is that true?

My husband passed away, and when I casually talked about whether I was able to meet my parents... I was told by S that you can't meet Buddhism until 3 years have passed, and if it's S, you can meet right away, so go in, but is that true? I don't feel like getting into S, and I'm not denying S...

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I'm about to become addicted to Hasunoha (lol)

We have discussed it several times. Thank you for your kind words and kind words as always! Also, recently, I've been watching “Q&A” when I have free time. It's a state where I wake up in the morning, open Hasunoha, open Hasunoha when my kids go to sleep, and open Hasunoha as a reward for...

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Should I talk about my past

Thank you very much for your continued support. The other day, we talked about hearing about his past. I also have a feeling that I want to talk about my past to him who told me because he didn't want to hide anything, but I don't have the courage. Just as I don't understand his pain, I...

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Why are we nervous and can we not be misled by nervousness

When I tell or present things in public You won't be able to even talk. I can't stop shaking, there's nothing I can do, it's abnormal It makes me nervous. However, since I have a strong desire to be useful to people We will work on anything. But the only thing you do is make a public...

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My best friend finally came out in my dream

I am really grateful to the monks for always receiving warm words Today for the first time, my best friend who passed away in May of this year came up in my dream As for the story, my best friend is in the hospital Said the meal I was eating looked delicious They asked me if it was okay to...

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About attending a funeral during pregnancy

I'm a pregnant woman who is currently 4 months pregnant. There was misfortune in the neighboring neighborhood, and I decided to attend the cremation and funeral. I have had 2 miscarriages due to infertility, and things have been going smoothly so far. I feel a little uneasy about attending the...

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minds

What is the richness of a monk's mind?

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About the permanent memorial service of the Jodo Shinshu

I know that the Jodo Shinshu sect doesn't hold memorial services because they don't need them, but are permanent memorial services the same? If you look it up, there is no permanent memorial service in the Jodo Shinshu sect! However, if you look further, you can also see many temples that offer...

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I want to believe more in Buddhism

I'm currently studying in an Islamic country. People around me were enthusiastic, so I started thinking about religion too. So I was asked about God by a local person and asked, “Which god do you use when you ask God for something or make a wish?” I was told. To be clear, I didn't really...

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I want to be positive, but I'm tired of thinking positively!

Hello. Let me ask you a question. I tend to feel depressed, so I've been reading websites and books that guide positive thinking, but recently I've started to feel tired when I read them. I'm in a state where I'm tired of the silent “feeling of pressure.” It just makes me feel like I want...

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The true meaning of a nenka smile

The other day, I received a beautiful brightly colored hydrangea from an acquaintance, so when I felt various things while arranging them in a vase, I noticed that I had a sad, complicated smile on my face that made me feel lonely. (There was a strange switch on.) That's OK, but I remember for...

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Anger at my ex-husband

I dared to write it as my ex-husband, but I plan to file for divorce in about 10 days. The reason is my husband's repeated debts. He insists that he suffered from a mental illness due to being blamed foul-mouthed by me for his debts, that he had no love for his children, and that he was once...

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Marriage with a 13 year age difference

Looking at the internet, etc., it seems that there are many people who regret getting married by age difference. I too will soon get married to my 47-year-old boyfriend who is 13 years older. Shortly before I started dating him, I had been in a relationship with a boyfriend of the same age...

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What is true love

Last time, I had a discussion about my former husband that I liked and got divorced from. I was hoping that one day I could discuss what true love means with that former husband, and I was thinking deeply about true love. I've often heard that love turns into hate, but I recently learned that...

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I have no control

It's painful not being able to convey my thoughts well. I want to switch my mind, but it's not going very well. What should I do? I had a fight with my husband over a trivial matter. It was a really small thing that turned on my switch and made me cry and scream so loud. After that, after...

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