Zen Dialogues

Reflections from Japan's Buddhist Traditions

Unsure about marriage

Thank you so much for reading. I decided to get married next month, but I married him As I did, my anxiety and hesitation grew, We have decided to consult with you. He is 38 years old, works for a major company, has considerable savings and income. On the occasion of this marriage,...

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Reasking about making offerings to photos from when you were alive

Making an offering for a photo from when you were alive The two chief priests answered Thank you so much. I'm very sorry for this difficult sentence to understand I'm asking your question again. This is the denomination you are asking about It's the Jodo sect. My late father's dead...

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Being an only child

Nice to meet you. I'm a mother with a 3-year-old only son. I would like to ask for opinions on leaving them an only child due to parents' circumstances. economic reasons, The fact that I don't have the confidence to raise more children due to my immaturity, I don't like making my son feel...

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Does Buddhism seek happiness after death?

Or are you looking for happiness when you're alive? Also, is it different depending on the denomination? Do memorial services for ancestors, try to erase the worries of living people, Sometimes I see both sides. There are also places that do fortune telling Is it quite different...

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Absolutely unforgivable

Right now, there are people I definitely can't forgive. I don't care about my life anymore, so I'm even directly thinking that someday I'll take revenge on my family. In Buddhism, what do you think about anger and things and people that are absolutely unforgivable?

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What was said by a monk

I'm indebted to you. I'm currently 6 months pregnant. It was my first pregnancy, and it would be a lie to say that I understood the gender, the progress was going well, and I had no worries, but I had a fun maternity life. The other day, I was contacted by a monk of the Tendai sect who was...

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How can I become more confident?

Hello. Let's get right to it, but here's the main subject. I don't have confidence in myself. I always compare myself to the people around me because I don't have confidence, I'm superior to Mr. A I'm winning against Mr. B with △△ I've unknowingly thought about it. Against someone you...

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Can't we go against fate?

I always read Q&A. I often think “I see,” and it's very helpful. By the way, does “destiny” exist? I use the word because it's “destiny,” and I feel that I blame it on “fate” quite a lot when I say it to myself. In life, there are causes, and there are consequences. Is cause and effect itself...

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What does living mean

I work as an office worker, I've been strong since I was little, and I've always been complacent since I was in middle school due to interpersonal fears, feelings of inferiority, etc. To be honest, it's still hard to live now. And when I think about when I get old, get sick, and die, I have no...

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About my encounter with Buddhism

I've had a favorite teacher for a long time. Of course, being in a relationship is ridiculous, and it's a relationship where they discuss their problems once in a while. I recently learned that this person is a Buddhist. Originally, I was a little interested in the way of thinking about...

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I'm so envious of my friends around me.

I have a fiancé and I'm planning to get married soon. I should have been happy, but I'm uneasy. That means her fiancé's job isn't going well, and she may quit after the wedding is over. Also, he is thinking about living together at his parents' house in the near future. As for work, I...

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Can I change denominations?

My denomination is the Jodo Shinshu sect, but I think there are denominations that are closer to my own ideas. Is it possible to change denominations? Also, what should I do to change denominations?

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When you turn 50

This is my first time asking a question. When I read a few questions, I saw quite a few trouble consultations from people who have turned 50. How should I live from now on? The position that had been built up until now is gone. I'm also in my forties, and the time I've been living is...

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About family funerals

My childhood friend's father passed away. I've loved Oi-chan since I was little. When I ask about the funeral schedule They answered that it was a family funeral, so please refrain from doing so. It is said that they will refuse Oi-chan's work and friendship relationships. I wanted to say...

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I'm starting to feel disgusted with my work.

I changed jobs about six months ago. Emails are flying around in the middle of the night, and I have a work environment that is too hard, and I'm starting to feel that my work is difficult and I can't keep up. I head to my computer to clean up even a little work on Saturdays and Sundays,...

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Facebook's repost appeal is annoying

It's annoying to see other people's posts on Facebook. ・I'm in Hawaii! That's good, that's good... ・It's BBQ with my friends, good, good... ・I changed my profile picture, I like it, I like it... I'm scared that if I don't know my friend's recent status, I'm the only one left behind in the...

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About tomorrow's surgery

I was asked to discuss this the other day. Please let me discuss it again. I'm currently 10 months pregnant, and I'm having a caesarean section tomorrow due to a breech child. It's such an important time, but I want to be isolated from my mom already. The reason was that when I told them that...

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How to burn incense

Obon is approaching and I'm going to the memorial service next time, but are there any rules on how to burn incense? When I look at other people, I'm just imitating it because it's repeated 2 or 3 times by pinching it with my finger, getting close to my face, and putting it back together. If...

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Why are sutras (kigyo) read in Chinese?

The ancients understood Chinese, so it seems that they didn't need to dare translate it into Japanese, but I think it's difficult for modern people. Originally, Buddhism is supposed to be a teaching for living people. Isn't it important to convey teachings to everyone in an easy-to-understand...

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My parents are too disrespectful and it's painful

Recently, I've been thinking a lot that I'm sorry for making me raise something. Every time I see them suffer to raise me, my heart is crushed by guilt. I want to make it easier for them in the future. But I'm not sure I have that kind of power. I want to be a filial daughter. What should I do?

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