Zen Dialogues

Reflections from Japan's Buddhist Traditions

Is the calendar that important

The other day, my husband injured his leg, and I ended up taking a leave of absence for about half a year, including inpatient surgery and rehabilitation. Last time I asked you a question, I wrote that I'm not on good terms with my mother... Thanks to my husband's injury (it would seem like a...

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There are many failures. Motivation declines when failure continues.

Thanks for opening this question. I'm sorry this is a long sentence, but I would appreciate it if you read it to the end. I have two problems. The first is that there are too many calculation mistakes due to the College of Engineering's habit. I've been making simple calculation mistakes...

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I want to change my personality, which I always regret.

I regret everything so much that it's hard to feel positive. When something fails, I always regret “why didn't I do this when I should have done it at that time,” and I always blame myself. I want to fix this kind of personality, but it's not easy. What can I do to cure this personality?

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About how to control anger

I study all the time. I have a short temper personality, and I get frustrated when there are people who drive annoyingly, such as driving a car, etc., and I express my anger by staring at my partner, and I always regret it later. At that time, she must have a very bad expression, and I think...

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I want to change my timid self to love due to illness

I have a rare congenital disease called neurofibromatosis, which causes bruises and warts all over my body. It looks bad and is inherited by children As described above, no matter what, I don't have the courage to go out with men. In the past, there were men who kindly said they loved them,...

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Do you confess to someone you like

Nice to meet you. There is something I'm really worried about right now, and I would be happy if you could listen to it. I've had a crush on a year ago. I met him at a barbecue. There was almost no conversation during the barbecue, but it just so happened that we were sent by car on the way...

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Tired of dealing with students (teacher job)

I visited the site for the first time in 4 years. When I come here, my feelings are organized by writing, so I'm posting because I want people to listen to it and encourage me. I'm a single mother in my 40s. Until last time, they had trouble rebuilding their couple, and they finally got...

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About the child's marriage day

I haven't asked you a question in a long time. There was a report the other day that my eldest daughter had decided on a wedding date. My family is Shinto, but sometimes it's a day pattern? I'm worried about Taian and Butsumetsu. The day the eldest daughter decided was the first victory, but...

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they died by suicide and became a survivor...

I actually became a suicide survivor myself. I don't really feel like that Every day is stifling. The fact that there are various types of support Whether it's this site or local information I've seen it, but the hurdles are high. When I think I'll call someone I don't know at all and...

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I still can't talk properly with my father.

I lived away from my father from kindergarten until I graduated from elementary school. The reason isn't the case now, but it was due to my father's debt, women's issues (recently revealed), violence, and my father's personality that prioritizes work over family. Once in a while, my father...

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Why was the Earth born and I am here

When I hear epic stories such as celestial classes from a long time ago, I wonder why I'm here... Why was the Earth born... There were times when I felt uneasy, but at the beginning of this year, I suddenly didn't know what I was and I panicked. Why can we recognize words when we can recognize...

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About my current husband's past

I remarried my current husband, one year younger, in March of last year with my 19- and 9-year-old stepchildren. I haven't told anyone, but the reason we met was each other's followers on Twitter. When we met 3 years ago, my husband had an affair for 13 to 14 years with the wife of my...

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It makes me jealous

I entered the high school nursing department and graduated after 5 years studying earnestly as a regular nurse. I've been working since I was 20, and now I'm in my 5th year. I've been working for my dream nurse since I was young, and recently I made a friend who is a graduate student. That...

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Soka Gakkai

My mother is a member of the Soka Gakkai. That's almost always the case in my mother's family. Honestly speaking, I want them to quit, but my opinion is that it would be good if the person himself was saved. However, it's unbearable for me to be forced upon my own ideas. I love history,...

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About the destruction of my 2-year-old son

My 2 year old son is naughty and cute. However, sometimes he becomes the King of Destruction. If what I want doesn't go through, I throw things and hit them. It's dangerous, so if you're careful, it will get even more intense. The LCD on the TV broke today too. This is my second time. I...

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Please tell me

My father-in-law, who had been estranged for many years, passed away at the hospital this month. It's been 10 years since I moved into the home... my relationships were completely out of control, and my life was just stuck in my shell. I visited the body, wearing a special mask and guard...

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How should I recover from my mistakes and regrets

Hello. I have now quit my job and am looking for a job. The other day, I received a message from my previous business partner saying “I want you to come to our company.” At that time, I was in the process of selecting the company of my first choice. The first company I wanted to apply for...

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I don't know how to choose a temple.

Let me ask you a question. I've been married for 16 years. For married couples in times of emergency, on a regular basis I want to enter a temple for memorial services for my ancestors, etc. I talk to my husband all the time. But how to choose a temple etc. is completely unclear I've been...

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About the goshuin you get at the temple

I've always loved Kyoto and visited temples a lot. Being in a temple calms my mind, and I feel like I can become my true self, and I learned about goshuin as something that leaves memories other than photographs etc. I'd like to have it next time, but would it be rude to ask if you could...

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Can parents be sued

I recently learned that parents are not doing their parental duties. I'm a minor, so I need my parents' consent to do anything. Now that I'm 16, my parents say to school, “I have fulfilled my parental responsibilities and I will live my life.” However, when the tests are busy, they won't do...

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