Zen Dialogues

Reflections from Japan's Buddhist Traditions

Trouble with love

I'm 20 years old, and I've never had a boyfriend. There are many times when I feel ashamed that I've never had a boyfriend. In particular, I don't have a dark personality, but I can't get along well with men in the true sense of the word. The upper side can speak in an affectionate...

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Hasunoha-sama

Thank you very much for your permission. I would like to improve my own feelings and heart by drawing fun...

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Why did they do that?

I was at that time, why did they act like that I couldn't understand no matter how many times I thought about it I don't understand something. If you meditate or zazen, Are you getting to know yourself? It's pretty good in general terms, so please tell me

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It will drag on.

The other day, my friend told me in the shadows, “I don't like coming in trying to be liked, I don't like it.” We had trouble before, and we did a lot of things to try to be good friends, but that backfired. I'm filled with so sad feelings. If there are any words that make you blow away, I'd like...

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How to get involved with friends who are addicted to MLM

A friend I've been in a relationship with since middle school seems to be addicted to multi-like things, and I've been invited too. I don't think it's a bad thing for her to be addicted to it, but the fact that I was invited made to feel that I wasn't her friend, but only one of her...

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Hopeless predictions for the future

・J-Alerts becoming normal, direct hits when the sense of crisis has completely faded, enormous damage and hell spreading across the Japanese archipelago ・Economic collapse, declining productivity, increased consumption, and the right to survival to be selected. A society where destruction,...

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How to learn Buddhism... and tell me about the costs

　My only son committed suicide at the young age of 33. I blamed myself for not having been born, my son wouldn't have been born into this world, and of course I wouldn't have committed suicide, I was searching for the foundation of my heart. My father was originally an avid follower of the...

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I got stumped at first.

Hello. Start in December Even though it was something I should have done I'm lazy about the things I need to work on, I'm worried about it, It's now the 19th. There is a difference with the surroundings first I always stumble and I don't know how to get it back. I'm impatient and I'm...

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Tomb ginseng

Is Grandma who left for heaven on Eve watching me? I want to meet Grandma. I want to talk to Grandma. I'm lonely. I want to have Christmas with my grandma.

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I'm having trouble balancing nursing care and work.

Please show wisdom, monk. I have a father in his 80s who has cancer. I am recuperating at home with no chance of a complete cure. Make breakfast before going to work and dinner when you get home We make, prepare baths, etc., and provide nursing care. When I'm at work, I ask my wife and...

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What is lost thought or enlightenment?

Thank you for always learning about life. Thanks to that, I became interested in Buddhism, and little by little, I am reading books and learning. Among them, there are things I think about my ancestors and life, and I would like to ask you questions. I've heard that many of my ancestors during...

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About the hand memorial service for opening eyes

Hello. As for the question, I would like to split a small amount of bone from the grave and make a memorial service. At that time, is an eye opening memorial service necessary? I've heard that souls don't dwell in remains, so if you don't do an eye opening memorial service, the deceased's...

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Isn't it impossible to have a new relationship due to trauma

I had a boyfriend I was in a relationship with. I met him on a matching app, and he confessed that it was because he had a very type of face. However, when I met him one day when I was tired and lacked sleep, they complained that my skin was rough or that my face was different from the...

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why

Three years have passed since we became friends of 30 years into an adulterous relationship. I didn't want a divorce. But recently, I had a bad feeling, and when I did a lot of research, I found other affair partners. When I questioned my partner because it was vicious and pathetic, they said it...

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Trouble with colleagues

This is my first time consulting. My name is Kato. I contacted you to discuss my relationship with a colleague at work. I had a mental disorder in my first year as a member of society, decided on a day's work while consulting with my boss, and received consideration of leaving work on time...

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I don't want to watch the news

I don't want to watch the news. Recently I looked around and found a dead body. ○ days have passed since his death. It looks like murder. This kind of news has been circulating every day recently, and to be clear, I don't understand why they kill people so easily, but it makes me...

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Can't a person from an ordinary household become a temple wife?

The guy I'm in a relationship with is the successor to the temple, but people in the temple have married each other from generation to generation, and it is said that it is useless if they are from a normal household. ① Because it's a small temple, the number of parishioners won't increase...

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Ahead of disease treatment

I have lung cancer, and it has spread to lymph, and I have had three surgeries. There seems to be almost no five-year survival rate. Even so, I worked hard together with my family, lived up, and took the path of life. However, it has spread again, and now I am undergoing anticancer drug treatment...

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Is it bad to hold a memorial service for the 33rd anniversary?

I'm a housewife in my 50s. The 33rd death of my paternal grandmother at my parents' house and my older brother's wife is approaching. Instead of asking the family temple for the 33rd anniversary memorial service, isn't it a substitute for the 33rd anniversary memorial service in the Kyogi...

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Why do we believe in Kannon

I'm still immature, but I'm a monk of the Soto sect, and I'm studying a lot. Then I suddenly wondered why they enshrine and believe in things that don't exist (I don't know if they exist), such as Kannon, Amida Nyorai, and Daikokuten. Buddha looks at himself rather than praying to gods and...

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