Zen Dialogues

Reflections from Japan's Buddhist Traditions

Why does attitude grow when you become a veteran at work?

When you experience a certain number of years at work and become like a veteran, forget the feeling you had when you were a rookie Why is it that their attitude is so arrogant that they feel as if they know everything from the beginning and can do it? It's no wonder. Even professional...

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I think my husband is bad friends too.

Thank you for taking a look. It's about my husband, My husband has been abusive to me until now. Incompetent, lackluster housewife. A full-time housewife who can't. Physiologically not accepted. stupid. shut up! learn. Put them to sleep quickly! maybe it's my fault. etc., violence. Tear up...

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I feel like my heart is too narrow

I'm a high school student. My younger brother, who is in middle school, is confused even though he is studying for the regular test using my past questions. For now, ostensibly, I'm asking them to quit, saying that studying using past questions is useless for entrance exams, but my younger...

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I want to die soon ①

A 31-year-old single male has a developmental disability (pervasive developmental disorder). I want to die, and I just want to die fast. There are many reasons why it's hard to live. First, you must have a developmental disability. As a result, relationships, work, and everything are not...

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I'm so sad to lose my mom.

I lost my mother to cancer in April of this year. It was announced in September of last year, and it's only been 7 months. When the announcement was made, I told my attending physician that there are still places I want to go and that I want to see my grandson (niece from my point of view) grow....

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The divorce has been decided

It's been 10 years since we got married. We had our first fight the other day, and we ended up getting divorced in 1 week, and discussions are underway now. It seems that the reason they want to get divorced is a difference in their sense of money. I've been managing my household since I got...

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Job hunting, relationships, romance... it's not going well.

Good evening. My name is Soyo and I am a fourth year university student. Job hunting isn't progressing easily, and as people around me decide on job offers, I continue to be rejected even after being interviewed, and my feelings are sinking. I compare myself to my cousins and surroundings. Even...

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I judged it not by what's inside, but by its appearance

My heart hurts, so I want you to listen to the story Today I met a kid I met on a matching app. I was on the phone the whole time deciding on the store, and the conversation was so frank that I felt as if we were in a relationship But when I met her, she had a cleft palate. I was surprised,...

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Denial of other denominations?

that's 00! In Nichiren's words, there are words such as shingon exiled country, zen tenma, nembutsu mugan, and ritsukoku bandit, but I wonder what it would be like to criticize other teachings. I've heard that Nichiren did Kokuzo Gumonjiho and arrived at the teachings of Hokke Ichijo... Isn't...

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How to talk

I've hated talking so much in my life up until now. I can't say many compliments When I talk to people, I'm being too honest Things that make the other person uncomfortable It's been over and over again, and it's even faster and less fluent I've been told by my parents since I was in...

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I don't have room for my feelings, and I can't be positive

I'm always indebted to you. Over the past few years, days of nothing but sighing have continued. We have discussed it in the past, but the relationship with the isolated eldest son couple (the wife's former husband's child) and the daughter-in-law's parents has deteriorated, and the relationship...

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My wife told me to get divorced

We have been married for about 10 years and have children aged 7 and 3. The relationship began to deteriorate from around October last year, and although they made up in places, it felt like they were able to surpass the situation... I was told that I want them to get divorced already after...

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It's troublesome to live

Hello. I'm a 16 year old high school girl. I feel that life is a hassle these days. I don't want to live, but I don't feel like I want to die. When I go to school, I'm late or absent the next day. When I get home, the fatigue I put up with at school comes and I fall asleep right away. There's...

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I can't live the life I drew when I was little

I'm currently job hunting. The gap between the ideals I had in mind when I was little and now is so big that I feel a dent in myself. I feel sorry for who I was when I was little. When I was little, I wanted to get an international job! I had that thought. I don't know what I want to do, I...

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What does it mean to not be influenced by feelings

I began to be interested in Zen, read books about Zen, etc., and often visit this site. As I came into contact with Buddhism in this way, I began to want to learn a way of life where I wouldn't be swayed by my own distractions or the like. However, when I gradually shake off those...

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Attitudes for when you feel frustrated, recovery keywords

This is my first time asking a question. Thank you for your support. Over the past few years, I've been bothered by the words and actions of my juniors at the company. Even though she's a junior, she's also in her late 30s and a nice adult.  She is a person who feels overly self-conscious,...

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I want to control my anger against my mother-in-law

I got married to a temple, and my mental state worsened due to taunting and severe harassment in such a way that my mother-in-law denied my personality. I feel like I've finally gotten better, but there are times when I feel that I'm still afraid or frightened of people when getting involved...

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How to accept nonsexuality

I'm probably nonsexual I have never felt sexual attraction towards people even before I became sexual phobia due to past sexual victimization. What is sexual attraction in the first place? It makes me think. I'm talking about girls the same age as when they were students feeling attracted to...

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Elementary 6 girls are not suitable for junior high school entrance exams

I know that even if you can study to a certain extent, there are people who are unsuitable for junior high school entrance exams. I have continued to be enrolled in the top class, starting with going to major preparatory schools from the fourth elementary school in general. Elementary 4 and...

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Fortune telling results

My friend said she wanted to go the other day and went for my fortune telling. The result at that time was “run away from him softly and you can't cure him because you're not an expert.” I was told. What the fortune teller said was almost true, so I can't believe it at all!! I can't even feel...

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