Zen Dialogues

Reflections from Japan's Buddhist Traditions

Can't you read the air?

When there was a work report within the workplace, I overheard what my boss and colleagues were talking about. It was a matter related to that content, and I remembered content that seemed necessary to be made known, and just when I made a statement, the atmosphere stopped. The content was...

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I wish my mother wasn't the one who passed away

Ten months have passed since the death of my beloved mother. It's a day when I try to suppress my sad and helpless feelings by making an appeal on SNS or acting cheerfully as if people have changed at work, and it just feels kind of empty. It became even more painful when people told me that it...

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I had my ribs broken off. divorce? Am I slow?

Thank you so much for your help. I would like to ask for your help this time as well. We've been married for less than 2 years. When we first started dating, he was kind. However, since I became pregnant, we have had constant fights. Get out of the house in the midst of a storm against my...

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I'm ashamed of my past immaturity

Often, actors and singers are too embarrassed to listen to their past performances and songs. I hear a story about not being able to watch. I think the fact that my past self looks bad is proof that my current self has grown, but after all, it's pretty tough to be able to show off my...

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The meaning of my husband's death

My husband died due to a medical error. He was my one and only loved one. I haven't been blessed with a family since I was a child, and I lived in hiding, being chased by debt collectors like I really saw on TV due to my father's debts. I got divorced when I was 6 years old and separated from...

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I'm crushed by a sense of guilt. In order to be even a little bit human...

What should I do to make amends... I'm such a terrible person, but I'd like some advice. While I was being consulted, I became fond of married people. Currently, I want to apologize to my wife, can't leave him alone again, and various thoughts go through my head about what would happen if...

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I cheated on my high school entrance exam.

I cheated on my high school entrance exam a year ago. I didn't do well on the test I had confidence in, and my head went blank and cheated on the test in a different subject. However, my memory of that time is vague, and even though I have a memory that I cheated, I don't know how many questions...

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I want to forget him

Nice to meet you, and I hope you can contact us if you don't mind. Thank you for your support. I had a boyfriend of 1 year, and we broke up the other day. The reason we broke up was that he had a debt of about 4 million, and he told me he was sorry for bothering me, and I was left with an...

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I don't know what to do anymore, it's all my fault

Hello. This is my first time posting. I'm having a big fight with my boyfriend. A week ago, my boyfriend told me something very terrible (even though I was worried and went to the line, he said “I'm busy, I'm bothered during work”), and I was really shocked at the same time. I ignored all...

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How to live after an abortion

I became pregnant with a child with him who had been going on for 6 years due only to physical relationships. I'm currently in week 7. I'm in my first year as a working person and he's a student. No matter how much I talk to him, my desire to give birth won't change. His final answer was ・I...

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It drags on events from years ago

Nice to meet you. The haze won't clear up, so I'd like to discuss it with you. I'm going to drag on past events forever. It also doesn't mean that my gaffe is dragging on for a few days; it feels like events from a few years ago have been dragging on for a long time. Because of my...

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Work worries

It's been over a month since I first worked at a supermarket. I will now be in charge of cash registers and food. I've gotten used to my work, and I enjoyed my work, but since two weeks ago, I ordered a van, and I can't sleep because of anxiety every day. My boss says so many things to me...

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Even if someone they like is made, they quickly become disillusioned

I'm a 30 year old female. Even if I have a man I like, I feel “this person is different (not the person I was destined to be)” after the date, I withdrew, and I'm still single. No matter which man you date, “Something's different. It makes me think, “There should be others who are more...

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I'm too scared to act

Thank you for watching. It's going to be long, so I'll explain briefly. Apparently, my failure has involved people around me, causing trouble even to people who aren't involved. To a friend the other day I don't want you to let the problem get involved. If you cause too much trouble to...

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About atonement and repentance for past crimes

I committed stealing when I was in middle school. Currently, there is a statute of limitations for detectives. (Details are written in the profile.) Recently, I remembered this, made a donation, etc., and tried to make amends and repent, but after all, when I think about my partner's time, I...

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Maybe it wasn't suitable for marriage

Half a year has passed since I got married and started living with my husband. I'm worried that maybe I shouldn't have gotten married. Originally, I had little desire for marriage, childbirth, and childcare, and when my husband proposed to me, I inwardly thought it was disrespectful. This is...

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I'm having trouble with relationships

I build barriers when dealing with others, and I can't go so far as to become close. That wasn't the case in the past, and I had friends, but I don't have anyone close enough to call me my friend at school now. I don't think I hate being alone, but I sometimes feel lonely when I happen to, and...

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I feel guilty about throwing it out in the middle

After the consecutive holidays, I started going to the nearest driving school to get a small motorcycle (scooter) license. However, due to my lack of skill, I wasn't able to handle it better than I expected, and after being unable to learn within the specified time, it became an extended...

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I left my matching partner naked

Thank you for always being there. I've been married for 16 years, and my husband has repeatedly cheated on me. Looks like they enjoyed matching this time. It was last week when my anger didn't subside for a month and peaked. I didn't want to dirty myself. Before I knew it, I was also...

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What is a lifestyle learned from Buddhism

　good evening. I came across this site and found out the true identity of my fuss, and my mind is also changing. Thanks to everyone who responded to the consultation. Thank you very much. I have lived my life keeping a diary, taking notes, and storing things. However, living with what is...

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