Zen Dialogues

Reflections from Japan's Buddhist Traditions

Past mistakes

　I had a physical relationship with a married man even though I had a long-distance boyfriend a year ago. I've already broken off my relationship with that person, and I've erased my contacts. I've decided to break up with my boyfriend for a different reason, but it seems like I'm still being...

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Please encourage

A hated role. What needs to be conveyed needs to be stated clearly so that misunderstandings do not occur. Nonetheless, after all, there are times when it's hard. It's about losing money. It's not that good either, but it's a human being that can be messed with if they get jealous and say bad...

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It will hurt people.

This is my first time consulting with you. Sorry for the long sentence. Yesterday, I made the guy I'm dating feel bad, and I was told not to email him for a while. The phone call was also declined, and my apology and feelings were conveyed by email. On my own, these were words I uttered...

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I'm obsessed with the guy I broke up with

I've been looking at this site before, but I'm asking a question for the first time. I was dumped the other day after I decided to get a job and it became a long distance away from him for a month and a half. They started a relationship on the premise of marriage due to his enthusiastic...

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We are unable to decide on future decisions

　You will be asked questions. I'm currently a 19 year old guy. I have fallen in love just like anyone else, and I have lived my life thinking about people. However, one's own dependency becomes revenge, and if you are not dependent on someone (mental dependency), you cannot control your...

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It's hard being hurt by toxic parents

I live alone, and recently my parents came to my house suddenly because I had a minor contact accident. I was scolded because the room was messy, etc., but even though it was light, I was made to do a general cleaning of the room regardless of 1 day after the accident, and it went back and forth...

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It seems like it's going to be crushed by anxiety about the new environment

Last week I moved to a place where I didn't know anyone at all. It's a city I've lived in once, but it's a completely unfamiliar place, and my parents' house is in the same city, but it takes over 1 hour by car or train. The reason I moved was that I bought an apartment, and my husband...

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I'm now taking care of the mother I've been relying on

Nice to meet you, I would like to talk about my 90-year-old mother. My mother, who has supported and encouraged me due to many difficulties until now, has become impossible to treat due to illness. I've been worried about my husband and son who have mental problems (my son who was hurt by...

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My friend won't listen to my precious piano

Good evening. I'm close to 40 and the content is very childish, but I felt that I was deeply involved in my own mental problems, so I wanted to get advice from a monk, and I would like to consult with you, thank you for your support. I play jazz piano as a hobby, and since an important friend...

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About popularity picked up at sea

The other day, I picked up a doll of a girl that was in tatters at sea. It was a pity, so I took it home and unraveled my hair. But recently, a little doll came up in my dream and was trying to kill people. When I looked it up closely in my dream, it seemed like the doll I had picked up was...

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How to deal with friends

My current husband has remarried, and they have no children. I have one daughter with my previous husband. We kept in touch when we were little, but now we're not negotiating. I think they'll already be married and have children. My friends know about my circumstances, but I'm not talking about...

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I'm full of anxiety about work and love.

Hello. I'm anxious about everything right now, and I'm afraid every day. On the work side, I'm at a loss about how to teach my juniors because I'm in the position of a superior person. I'm 3 years apart from my juniors who are new graduates, but since I'm close in age, I don't really think of...

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