Zen Dialogues

Reflections from Japan's Buddhist Traditions

My son's baseball game is painful.

My son, who is in middle school, belongs to a hardball baseball team. Not only is it physically difficult to pick up and drop off, but it's also physically difficult to bring along to practice and games. What's more painful than that is that I don't spend much time with the other sisters because...

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How can I accept myself?

　Previously, I asked a question about “I couldn't get married, I can't find my future life.” Since then, I've received support from various people, and I've been thinking about various things. However, no matter what, my thoughts just loop like this, and my thoughts don't move forward at...

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About the idea of reincarnation

I have 2 questions ① In Buddhism, it is said that people are born with the idea of reincarnation What do you think about population growth and decline? The current population of Japan is over 100 million It seems that when the Taiho Ritsuryo Code was established in the Nara period, there...

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I don't understand the feelings of people who don't want to be cured

Someone important to me has a heart (brain) illness. And that person tells me he wants to stay sick. This is so hard for me to accept. My personality changes only because of that illness, and they use verbal and physical violence against me. I hate that so much. I went to the hospital many...

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I can't get death out of my head

I'm a perfectionist. But we don't have enough ability to do everything perfectly. They are people who have a strong sense of obsession with living in perfect order and doing what they think perfectly. That's why I'm tempted to give up everything after one stumbling block. However, in reality,...

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I want to fix my personality that changes drastically when I drive

Hello, this is my first time posting. Thank you for your support. I'm a fourth year college student and I'm 22 years old. There are often “people whose personality changes drastically when they get behind the wheel.” I'm really a person who “changes my personality drastically” and I can't...

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I want to keep my diary but it won't continue

Good evening. The year is coming to an end this year. Thank you very much for your help. Sorry for the silly question at the end of the year. Every year, I start writing my diary on January 1st. I found a diary I like, and I'm excited for this year, but I'm frustrated. First, the...

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About children's names and naming

It's about naming. Only monks reveal their names in the profile section. I gave birth to my second daughter last year. The name that was this ‼ ︎ was not decided until the last minute of the birth registration, and I chose one from the names my husband had put up as candidates when I was...

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Is it this hard to live with bereavement regrets?

While nursing at home at the beginning of April this year, my grandmother aspirated lunch, suffocated, and passed away the next day. I had promised to go see the cherry blossoms that day... but it happened all of a sudden. I was a grandmother's child, so after I lost my grandmother, I...

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The meaning of things that don't come true no matter how much you wish or effort

Excuse me for the long post. My grandmother passed away in August. I was 92 years old. I had a sudden stroke in February, had pneumonia, and was unconscious for about 1 month. From there, I regained consciousness and moved to a sanatorium hospital, recovered smoothly from my stroke, and I was on...

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faces

All of my relatives have well-shaped faces. However, I'm the only one who doesn't look like anyone else, and I stuck clothespins between my nose, saying to my grandmother that she looks like a girl since she was a kid, and that her face would be popular in the Edo period. I've been told many...

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masturbating

When I masturbate for a long time, my butt gets hot... Something will definitely happen, such as whether something breaks or breaks, whether someone around you will have a tight lower back, someone around you will have a knee pain, someone around you will vomit or fall down, or get injured,...

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Why are religious groups silent?

I'm always indebted to you. The other day, I'm not a believer, but when I posted a post against war on a religious site, I was told that it wasn't a place to discuss such things, and it was immediately removed. I was shocked. I think Japanese religions are silent on social issues, human rights,...

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Is there an afterlife

Until a while ago, I thought heaven and paradise would exist after death, but after the death of a relative, I didn't think so. If you die, they'll become bones and go back to the soil and that's it. The world of heaven and pure paradise is common to all religions, and in ancient Egypt, there...

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What is the best friend

I don't have many friends, but I do have a few dear ones. They've been good friends for years, and we still play from time to time. However, there are times when I suddenly think about it. I'm an important friend for me, but for them, I'm probably just one of my friends. You probably don't...

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My adult daughter went on to college

My daughter (23) said she would like to go to a vocational school next spring. My daughter didn't match the vocational school she went to when she was 18 and dropped out of school after half a year. After that, I lost my confidence, became unwell and had a mood disorder, and I was hospitalized...

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My current situation

I'm currently depressed, and I was working, but I quit. When I think about the economy, I'll have to work again soon, but I plan to relax until I get unemployment insurance. However, when I do housework, I don't have anything else to do, and I often fall asleep, watch TV, and get lazy, so I...

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Intellectually and mentally disabled people and Buddhism

I was writing a question about physically weak people and becoming a monk the other day, and I suddenly thought, What is the position of people with severe intellectual disabilities in Buddhism? I can understand that people with severe mental or intellectual disabilities cannot be employed as...

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Will I go to hell when I die?

I have depression, and I'm a person who doesn't know when to do it because I want to die. But I feel like I want to be alive, but I don't want to live. There are things I quickly wonder about in my everyday life. It was said, “If you commit suicide, you'll go to hell.” If that's really the...

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Criticism of “funeral Buddhism”

Hello. This is a question about criticism of “funeral Buddhism.” Sometimes on the internet, etc., “Buddha denied having a funeral or making a tomb. So Japanese Buddhism is far from the original Buddhism.” I see comments such as, but did the Buddha really deny making funerals and graves? I...

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