Zen Dialogues

Reflections from Japan's Buddhist Traditions

I feel guilty for killing bugs such as spiders

It kills spiders and small insects whose names you don't know. I often crush them with a tissue, and after killing them, they say “I'm sorry” and put their hands together a bit, but even though they feel sorry, they still kill bugs every time. They kill them because they're afraid. For...

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I want to die

I want to die. It's hard to live. I feel like everything I'm doing is useless, and there's no point in living. I don't want to do anything, I don't feel motivated. You might be bothered when you die, but I don't think it's more of a nuisance than being alive. I tried to die before, but in the...

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heart emoticon

Excuse me for asking. When getting in touch via SMS, the other party uses heart emoticons and emojis, but do men usually use heart marks on seniors they are on good terms with? I like it, so I'm interested. Thank you for your advice.

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Resistance to dislike

Currently, I am working on a temporary basis. It was a job that required detailed cleanliness, and I decided that it was not a job that suited me, and I offered to retire and was accepted. My legs were heavy on the way to work, and I started feeling nauseous before going to work in the...

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I'm wondering if I should have an abortion. I'm 10 weeks pregnant.

I became pregnant with his (28 years old) child whom I had been in a relationship for 5 months. However, he is quick to say things that deny his personality (I'm scum). I've been trying my best to fix my bad points, but I've been told over and over again about my way of saying and thinking,...

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Maybe I hit and run

About 5 years ago, I was working as a delivery person, and one day, I felt like I heard a trick sound when parking in the back in the parking lot of the apartment, and when I looked at the side mirror, there was a slight scratch on the side mirror, but I may have hit it at that time, but I...

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Zaike's dialect

I think we should respect the Three Treasures at home. We should respect monks, obey them, and criticize them as much as possible. I think so. I became a resident Buddhist and have been studying a lot for a few years. I began to express my own opinions on SNS, “If you're at home, you can...

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How to relate to parents and how to raise a sense of self-affirmation

I'm a working woman in my 20s. From when I was in middle school, I didn't have any confidence in myself, and I began to see only the things I chose and the bad aspects of the place I belonged to, and I began to take a negative view of them. Recently, I've been taking a fresh look at myself,...

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I'm worried to be told a story I was inspired by in my childhood

I went to my grandparents' house the other day and talked with my grandparents and cousins. It was a story about my childhood when I wasn't able to remember myself at that time, and I was told stories about how when I went to graves and temples, I could see spirits (for example, talking about...

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I want to be a stupid person

　This is because people who are silly won't be asked to do anything, because they will make a fool of themselves. This is because they don't get mad at you even if you make a mistake, and they're labeled as bad at asking that guy. But people who are stupid aren't trusted, but they are in...

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I passed over the top of the sacred card

I was collecting trash from employees at work. At that time, it's in a paper bag on the floor I went through with a bag containing trash on top of the sacred card. Instead of straddling each other, the trash bag and arm passed over the sacred card. I don't have a kamidana at work yet, so I...

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I want to like people again.

I haven't had a new love since I broke up with my ex six months ago, with whom I had been in a relationship for many years. Even when I meet a lot of people, I don't think I like them. I only find bad points, and I can't trust them in the first place, and before making decisions like them, I...

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My mental and physical disorder doesn't go away and it's painful

I'm suffering from symptoms such as not being able to get into my head no matter how much I look back at the content of sentences and sounds, and even if I can barely understand them, it takes too long to understand them. I know it's causing trouble to people around me, but I can't improve it by...

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Questions about repentance

　There are a few things I'm worried about about repentance. 1. Is there no point in Seijojin until he repents all his sins (confesses all his mistakes to a monk) and confesses his mistakes, apologies, and makes amends to the world and parties as much as possible? 2. When talking to people or...

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Jodo Shinshu, Soto, Shingon

Excuse me, the title is meant not to be seen by a certain monk. It's a consultation. I'm from home, but I was lucky enough to have mentors and monks. That teacher, monk, and friend told me about the fact that I'm recuperating at home at my parents' house due to mental illness, that I don't...

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cruel and kind grandmother

No matter what, it's getting painful. Actually, I haven't written a thank you to the monk who answered my previous question yet. Before I wrote my best thank you, I experienced unbearable suffering. Thanks for the previous question, please wait. I'm also prepared to scold him. As I've written...

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I want to die even though I don't want to die

It makes me want to die even though I don't want to die Please help I think I'm blessed. There are no problems with my family or school, and I feel that my part-time job is rewarding. I love studying, and I also have hobbies that I can focus on. I'm worried that there are many days when I...

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What will happen with Satoru

It is said that once you have attained enlightenment, you will not be reincarnated, but what will happen? I seem to have regrets about the world.

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My father's life is about to run out

My 76-year-old father's life is about to run out. My father had cancer 4 years ago and has been fighting hard. My father has lived a hard life without complaining about the suffering of anticancer drug treatment. I can't even do anything that seems like filial piety, and I'm just upset...

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About worrying too much about raising children

I have a child who is 4 months old. Thanks to you, I have not had any major illnesses or injuries so far, and I am growing up quickly in good health itself. Even so, I'm always worried and frightened, “What should I do if this child suddenly dies.” Even though I'm just taking a nap, I...

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