Zen Dialogues

Reflections from Japan's Buddhist Traditions

A temple where you can keep your remains

I'm worried about temples that take care of children's remains. If I write in detail here, temples and people will be identified, so please refrain. My parents are still doing well, but when they died, I think of it as a permanent memorial service at the temple where my ancestors buried their...

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I can't face my fears before surgery

I'm a 20 year old college student. Recently, it was decided that I will have surgery in August of this year. Originally, it was an operation necessary in the future, but as of April, it was suddenly decided, and I'm not ready. The doctor told me that surgery has risks, and that half of the...

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Determining the time of death

I always think about my body and live my life. My family only talks about themselves and doesn't worry about me. I don't know what kind of job is good even though I think about my ears and change jobs. I think it would be mentally easier to decide when to die and decide to die in a year. I'm...

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My grandfather committed suicide.

I lost my grandfather 5 years ago. At the time, I had heard that he suddenly collapsed at home and died of illness, but I heard the other day that it really was suicide. I also read my grandfather's suicide note. The cause of suicide was my grandmother. My grandmother has not been diagnosed,...

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Why shouldn't we commit suicide

I want to die I'm just crying I think a certain celebrity also died due to a hard time People in the world may think why... but it means it's so painful to die Why do we have to live while doing bad things Why do we have to work hard to live Shouldn't I die if I'm satisfied

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I'm tired of religious differences

hello. I'm always indebted to you. I plan to become a priest at a temple in less than a week. My parents It's another Nichiren sect religion Now I'm against ascetic practices at temples. The reason is that parents say that if you put another religion into yourself, you will go to hell, Videos...

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Everyone in my family believes in a certain religion and it's stifling.

(From the Editorial Department. (Part of the post has been changed according to the agreement.) It is in a negative state of trust against a certain religion. I joined that religion right after I was born. My parents did it on their own. I think the teaching is also very good. I...

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About acquiring hobby qualifications

I thought I'd get a hobby qualification, and I was working hard to get the qualification. If you submit an assignment to the association and pass it, you can obtain a qualification. When I finished all 100 assignments and thought about submitting them, my mother said that the qualification...

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Visit your marriage partner's grave

It's been a little over a year since we got married. I visited my husband's grave at my parents' house three times in the past year, such as the end of the year, Obon, and Ohigan. My parents-in-law also seem to take it for granted that I go visit my husband's grave. However, my husband never...

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I want to start over with a life I deserved

The cost of my life up until now, running away to an easy way and living without thinking seriously when faced with problems, has now all fallen to me. I think my choices were always wrong. It's really painful. I want to die. I want to be comfortable. However, the sight of parents feeling sad is...

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Depression is not curable

Nice to meet you today. I'm a man in my thirties, and I was diagnosed with depression from the hospital three years ago and went to the hospital, but there's no sign of getting better. My job is an office worker, but I don't get along with my boss, and I just get stressed every day. After I...

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I would like to hear your various thoughts

My daughter reserved a cake the other day It was when I forgot about it that day and didn't go to get my memories before going to bed. I've already paid for the cake It is said that the phone did not come even when it was time to pick it up It seems like my wife heard that story from my...

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Not good at kids

Originally, I didn't like kids. Strangely enough, when I became pregnant, I think I have a baby in my stomach I couldn't help but look forward to meeting them, and I felt very happy when I felt it move in my stomach. I wonder if this means that my kids are cute! I thought so. Even...

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Bad-mouthed

If you do good things, good things will come back. To speak ill of something is to spit in the sky. It is often said, Is this true? Even if I understand that I shouldn't speak ill of you I adjusted it to my surroundings, polo It makes me feel relaxed. What should I do to stop speaking ill...

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How to relieve desperation

Thank you for your help, Hasunoha helped me a lot this year, and I am sincerely grateful. I posted it because I wanted to receive hints on how to relax my heart that is too desperate. I entered graduate school in my mid-thirties, and from there until now (part-time university...

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Is there anyone who should die?

I think I'd be a better person to die. I'm not a criminal, but I've bothered a lot of people. Even though I get paid taxes to work, I haven't been able to get any results. Not only did they not return anything to the parents and grandparents who provided a blessed environment, but they also...

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I lost my child. please help me.

I can't sort out my feelings no matter what, and I don't know how to spend my time, so I would like to ask for help and consult with you. I lost a high school child. I've been a kind and caring kid since I was little. Although they were clumsy, they were friendly and blessed with people around...

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I can no longer trust monks

It took a lot of courage to come here with a title like this, but I would like to ask the question because I really want to hear the monk's opinion. When my father was cremated 6 years ago, the chief priest of the temple who is now a parishioner recited sutras and then said, “You don't have...

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I don't know if it's okay to live happily

Until now, I have lived my life thinking about things in an egocentric manner. It didn't touch the law, and it didn't become a big deal... Until now, there have been people who have caused trouble and hurt me, but I suddenly became uneasy about whether it's okay for me to live a normal life...

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Funeral wearing a mask

The other day, My husband's mother passed away A funeral was held. At that time, They gave me sutras The monk wears a mask throughout the funeral. In the middle of the sutras only when drinking tea, Shift the mask Other than that Keep your mask on. Monks are human too,...

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