Zen Dialogues

Reflections from Japan's Buddhist Traditions

I'm having trouble with relationships

I build barriers when dealing with others, and I can't go so far as to become close. That wasn't the case in the past, and I had friends, but I don't have anyone close enough to call me my friend at school now. I don't think I hate being alone, but I sometimes feel lonely when I happen to, and...

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I feel guilty about throwing it out in the middle

After the consecutive holidays, I started going to the nearest driving school to get a small motorcycle (scooter) license. However, due to my lack of skill, I wasn't able to handle it better than I expected, and after being unable to learn within the specified time, it became an extended...

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I left my matching partner naked

Thank you for always being there. I've been married for 16 years, and my husband has repeatedly cheated on me. Looks like they enjoyed matching this time. It was last week when my anger didn't subside for a month and peaked. I didn't want to dirty myself. Before I knew it, I was also...

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What is a lifestyle learned from Buddhism

　good evening. I came across this site and found out the true identity of my fuss, and my mind is also changing. Thanks to everyone who responded to the consultation. Thank you very much. I have lived my life keeping a diary, taking notes, and storing things. However, living with what is...

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About entrance celebrations

I was worried because I didn't know if it would be appropriate to consult here, but I will do my best to consult with you. It's probably a small thing. It doesn't matter. Maybe I'm just being stingy, but I'm confused. This April, my older child became a high school student, and my younger child...

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I want to ease my competitive spirit

This is my first time consulting with you. It's about work, but my I'm tired of feelings of competition, dislike of losing, jealousy, and impatience. I live a work-centered lifestyle. I can only find my value in how many jobs I do and how successful I am at work. Once evaluated, I feel...

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Ronin seems to have failed and I want to disappear now

I've been a ronin aiming for national medical school for 1 year. The second exam is 1 week from now. The results of the common test were so bad that I misrepresented my score to my parents. No matter what, I couldn't tell them the real score. While studying for the second exam with the aim of...

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Please tell me how to cut the edge. Continued

I've been having discussions for a long time where I'm worried about being ignored by my husband. I think there's also my personality problem. I also understood very well that the personality I was born with cannot be easily changed. If I had lived with my husband, the results might have been...

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I don't want to live because I'm afraid of the future

I don't want to live because I'm afraid of the future. Hello. I'm still worried about the future It's hard to live every day being bothered I'm in my 20s. I have a vision of the world in which I live as an adult I was plagued by anxiety about the future after it became larger My...

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About books

I have a question about the book. About 2 weeks ago, they said on FM radio that it would be great to read books other than magazines. The DJ said that when you hit a wall or get stuck in your life, you know how you can escape the darkness while devising your own ideas, even under all...

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Past mistakes

　I had a physical relationship with a married man even though I had a long-distance boyfriend a year ago. I've already broken off my relationship with that person, and I've erased my contacts. I've decided to break up with my boyfriend for a different reason, but it seems like I'm still being...

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Please encourage

A hated role. What needs to be conveyed needs to be stated clearly so that misunderstandings do not occur. Nonetheless, after all, there are times when it's hard. It's about losing money. It's not that good either, but it's a human being that can be messed with if they get jealous and say bad...

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It will hurt people.

This is my first time consulting with you. Sorry for the long sentence. Yesterday, I made the guy I'm dating feel bad, and I was told not to email him for a while. The phone call was also declined, and my apology and feelings were conveyed by email. On my own, these were words I uttered...

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I'm obsessed with the guy I broke up with

I've been looking at this site before, but I'm asking a question for the first time. I was dumped the other day after I decided to get a job and it became a long distance away from him for a month and a half. They started a relationship on the premise of marriage due to his enthusiastic...

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We are unable to decide on future decisions

　You will be asked questions. I'm currently a 19 year old guy. I have fallen in love just like anyone else, and I have lived my life thinking about people. However, one's own dependency becomes revenge, and if you are not dependent on someone (mental dependency), you cannot control your...

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It's hard being hurt by toxic parents

I live alone, and recently my parents came to my house suddenly because I had a minor contact accident. I was scolded because the room was messy, etc., but even though it was light, I was made to do a general cleaning of the room regardless of 1 day after the accident, and it went back and forth...

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It seems like it's going to be crushed by anxiety about the new environment

Last week I moved to a place where I didn't know anyone at all. It's a city I've lived in once, but it's a completely unfamiliar place, and my parents' house is in the same city, but it takes over 1 hour by car or train. The reason I moved was that I bought an apartment, and my husband...

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I'm now taking care of the mother I've been relying on

Nice to meet you, I would like to talk about my 90-year-old mother. My mother, who has supported and encouraged me due to many difficulties until now, has become impossible to treat due to illness. I've been worried about my husband and son who have mental problems (my son who was hurt by...

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My friend won't listen to my precious piano

Good evening. I'm close to 40 and the content is very childish, but I felt that I was deeply involved in my own mental problems, so I wanted to get advice from a monk, and I would like to consult with you, thank you for your support. I play jazz piano as a hobby, and since an important friend...

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About popularity picked up at sea

The other day, I picked up a doll of a girl that was in tatters at sea. It was a pity, so I took it home and unraveled my hair. But recently, a little doll came up in my dream and was trying to kill people. When I looked it up closely in my dream, it seemed like the doll I had picked up was...

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