Zen Dialogues

Reflections from Japan's Buddhist Traditions

Is it wrong to love someone like this?

Nice to meet you. I've had a crush on someone for over ten years. I was self-employed, had a strong sense of self, and had financial and mental leeway... it was a person I admired at the time. Over the next few years, the distance gradually shortened, and I was even told by that person...

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I was dumped when my body wasn't compatible

I'm shocked to be told that they want to break up because their bodies aren't compatible, and I'd like to discuss it with you if you want to change your mind somehow. As for the circumstances, I was surprised to be called out to the place where I was walking about a month ago, but the...

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I decided to live with my mom's boyfriend

Thank you very much for watching. About a month ago, my mother introduced me to an old man I am currently dating (my mother). We've been dating for 2 months. That's fine, but the problem is that they decided to live together a few days later. An old man I met a few days ago lives in this...

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Marital wrestling issues and customs for women

Hello. They are married in their 40s and have 2 high school children. The family is on good terms, and although they are busy every day, I think they are living a happy life. Meanwhile, as the title suggests, I've been struggling with husband-derived wrestling issues since about 10 years ago....

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How to think it doesn't matter

I want to be able to think that everything “doesn't matter.” There are times when I am really concerned about the words and actions of others and how they are viewed by others. Every time I do that, it becomes painful, and I may not be able to touch anything else. However, there are some...

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My mind is not stable.

Since my marriage broke up 3 years ago, I have become a humble self and have lived unstable days suffering from depression. I've stopped taking medicine for depression now and my physical condition has stabilized, and my interpersonal skills have dropped quite a bit because it's hard to speak...

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[Urgent] Crossroads, tomorrow is the time to make a decision

I am currently working as a temporary employee. I am grateful for the calm and warm treatment at my place of work. On the other hand, I myself worked while worrying for a long period of time because I wanted to do a job that I felt was worth studying even more. The company I just happened to...

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Is the desire for knowledge an affliction

I'm a university student studying humanities disciplines. Since I woke up to the fun of studying when I was in high school, I have dedicated all my time to studying until now, leaving it up to my own desire for knowledge. Above all, I am devoting my time to Western philosophy, Islamic studies,...

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About the case where water accumulates in the urn

My father passed away, and it was decided that his ashes would be buried on the occasion of the first anniversary of his death. While doing a lot of research, I found many things with the content “when burial in a tomb, condensation forms inside the urn and water accumulates to the fullest”...

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I don't understand the meaning of being alive

Nice to meet you. My life was already coming to an end, and I couldn't find any hope in my current life where there were no happy times, and I often thought about self-exhaustion. I have many illnesses and live in hell every day, and my life with my husband, who has been very violent for many...

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I want to know how to be happy

Until now, I have been deeply hurt by my childhood abuse from my foster father and my relationship with my father over the years. I'm in such an extreme state mentally that I think “it won't be solved until you or your partner dies,” and even though I just want to be happy normally, I don't even...

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Self-management

There is a person I met at a marriage hunting party while my gynecology department got caught in the medical examination and was undergoing a re-examination, so why don't you start a relationship after the re-examination results came out thinking about the future? I told them, but they said they...

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Way of life

Please tell me what are the minimum requirements necessary for living (It doesn't matter if it's a personal thought) Personally, I think it's study and work

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I doubt the feeling of losing

It seems like the person I've liked until now has a fixed partner. She's also my friend. When I realized the relationship between the two, I felt like I had lost. I had doubts about myself thinking “I lost.” Certainly, I couldn't shoot him, so speaking of losing, I lost, Isn't...

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What is mind control?

On this site, you can receive opinions from monks of various denominations in response to the same consultation, so it's very helpful. However, since there are various monks, I feel that there are things that “fit or don't fit” from their sentences, style, and content. There are cases where...

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Temple succession issues

Nice to meet you. I'm indebted to you. You cannot take over the temple at your parents' house unless you are a male chief priest in a child temple. So, at first, I started saying that my older sister, who is the eldest daughter, will marry a monk and take over the temple, As my younger...

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Which one should I change my last name to when I get married

Nice to meet you, as the title says. I've been in a relationship with my girlfriend for six months and have now been living together, and now it's been 3 years. They are older people they can rely on, and they often get along, so we were both aware of marriage from an early stage. I just...

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Relationship with the Deputy Chief Priest

Hello, I would like to discuss your concerns. The other day, the deputy chief priest (26) confessed that he wanted me to go out with me. The eldest son is the chief priest of the temple there, and the second son, he, is the deputy chief priest. Also, the third son is a bank employee, and the...

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Is the Pure Land in this world or the next

Is the Pure Land of Paradise simply a world after death, or is it like a state of mind that can be reached even when alive? Generally speaking, it seems that the Jodo sect Chinzei school explains that it is the world after death, and the Nishiyama school, the Jodo Shinshu sect, the Ji sect,...

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He has a habit of getting along and is also an insane person

Until now, I had acted from my own point of view or my own assumptions without being aware of the situation, and I had hardly thought about future prospects or people's feelings. I didn't have any thoughts to think about the future or people's feelings. In addition to being easily irritated, they...

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