Zen Dialogues

Reflections from Japan's Buddhist Traditions

I don't want to be reborn

I'm always indebted to you. I've always thought this time around, but I don't want to be reborn again. I never want to come back to this world. I've been living for 54 years, and it's been such a terrible life. My dead parents also had a terrible life. There's a feeling that something terrible...

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My husband and parents-in-law only look at childbirth lightly

I really don't like it anymore. Yesterday, I brought in a story that my husband's parents are also going on a trip next month, so they asked me to stay away from the temple. I will be at the beginning of next month. It doesn't matter when they are born, but they stay overnight and stay away...

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Things you can do for a friend who is thinking about dying

I'm worried that my high school friend is going to die. “Being alive is meaningless. Is life worthwhile or troublesome” “I want to live to find the meaning of life, but I don't want to find anything else, whatever.” “You're going to die anyway, so you can die now, right?” “People around me...

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If I kill myself, will I go to hell?

A long time ago, I read a book called “Hell” and saw a story about how if you commit suicide, you will be punished in hell. How much virtue should I accumulate in order not to commit suicide and go to hell? Until now, I have made an effort to be kind to my family. Still, will everything you've...

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My husband is a monk

It's my selfish image, but there are things I'm not convinced of. I can understand that there are study sessions on a regular basis, but after that, there is always a drinking party called a social gathering, and we also stay overnight. I always include a companion at social gatherings. Is...

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I want to be honest with my son

My son is in his third year of high school, and even though he has a girlfriend, he seems to play with another kid and spoil her. I've been in a relationship with her for about six months now, and they're very close, Parents and children are doing well too. I had a sudden change of heart, and...

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Obsession with an ex?

It's with the guy I posted last time I have another problem and would like to discuss it with you. There have been a lot of things since my last post, but I tried using a matching app in order to look forward and switch my mind. After all, I didn't feel like having a relationship with another...

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About the feeling of being “nostalgic” about painting

Nice to meet you, I'm a person who just recently learned about Buddhism and is practicing it, albeit a little bit. Studying Buddhism, I learned that the present is important, not the past or future. So I was wondering, is feeling nostalgic a bad delusion? I first practiced painting for about 5...

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Where exactly do humans arrive

Nice to meet you. I'm a third-year junior high school student and an entrance exam student. Even if you go ahead with studying, enrolling, and getting a job, I can't get rid of my sense of weakness when I think that we will eventually reach “death.” Even if you look at animals I can't...

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Are human lives equal in weight?

I am currently working as a nurse as a staff member treating dialysis patients. I worked as a midwife in obstetrics and gynecology until about 2 years ago. At my previous workplace, I was sometimes involved in childbirth as a midwife in obstetrics, and there were days where I looked after...

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I have trouble talking to my father who is highly idealistic and strong

I'm sorry for the unavoidable trouble. My dad doesn't seem to like that I don't say words that he likes. My father seems to have high ideals, probably because he likes religion and has studied by reading various books. Over the past few years, during a time when I had a lot of trouble at...

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The way the heart is drawn

　Please tell me how to draw the heart. My mind has calmed down a bit since consulting with this site. Thank you very much. I am drawn to Zen, and I also like books and read them. Please tell me about easy zazen meditation and how to draw your mind. Thank you for your support.

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Is the calendar that important

The other day, my husband injured his leg, and I ended up taking a leave of absence for about half a year, including inpatient surgery and rehabilitation. Last time I asked you a question, I wrote that I'm not on good terms with my mother... Thanks to my husband's injury (it would seem like a...

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There are many failures. Motivation declines when failure continues.

Thanks for opening this question. I'm sorry this is a long sentence, but I would appreciate it if you read it to the end. I have two problems. The first is that there are too many calculation mistakes due to the College of Engineering's habit. I've been making simple calculation mistakes...

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I want to change my personality, which I always regret.

I regret everything so much that it's hard to feel positive. When something fails, I always regret “why didn't I do this when I should have done it at that time,” and I always blame myself. I want to fix this kind of personality, but it's not easy. What can I do to cure this personality?

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About how to control anger

I study all the time. I have a short temper personality, and I get frustrated when there are people who drive annoyingly, such as driving a car, etc., and I express my anger by staring at my partner, and I always regret it later. At that time, she must have a very bad expression, and I think...

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I want to change my timid self to love due to illness

I have a rare congenital disease called neurofibromatosis, which causes bruises and warts all over my body. It looks bad and is inherited by children As described above, no matter what, I don't have the courage to go out with men. In the past, there were men who kindly said they loved them,...

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Do you confess to someone you like

Nice to meet you. There is something I'm really worried about right now, and I would be happy if you could listen to it. I've had a crush on a year ago. I met him at a barbecue. There was almost no conversation during the barbecue, but it just so happened that we were sent by car on the way...

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Tired of dealing with students (teacher job)

I visited the site for the first time in 4 years. When I come here, my feelings are organized by writing, so I'm posting because I want people to listen to it and encourage me. I'm a single mother in my 40s. Until last time, they had trouble rebuilding their couple, and they finally got...

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About the child's marriage day

I haven't asked you a question in a long time. There was a report the other day that my eldest daughter had decided on a wedding date. My family is Shinto, but sometimes it's a day pattern? I'm worried about Taian and Butsumetsu. The day the eldest daughter decided was the first victory, but...

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